Ever hear the term “queerplatonic” before? Well, queerplatonic relationships are relationships without a romantic aspect that still involve a close emotional connection between both parties.
At first glance this sounds just like a close friendship, right? But the emotional connections involved in queerplatonic relationships exceed the parameters of what most people would consider friendship alone.
Queerplatonic relationships are a matter of platonic intimacy and an unparalleled level of openness. Though these relationships don’t involve sexual relations, they can still involve lots of physical affection. Holding this person’s hand may not feel romantic, but the act still creates feelings of warmth and love. There is unconditional love between both parties. Though there are not romantic feelings there is still a type of, for lack of a better term, “mushiness” — which is undeniably queer. Additionally, there’s an element of commitment. You keep up with each other’s lives and listen intently. It’s the feeling that this person you share a special connection with is, in a way, a life partner.
The media (I feel so cringe-y when I say “media” but alas the media) teaches us that romantic relationships are to be our top priorities. Certainly romantic relationships can be a top priority, but to assume that that’s the case for everyone? I call bullshit. Platonic relationships can be just as, if not more, valuable. The media constantly undermines the importance and presence of intimate platonic relationships in our lives. Just look at the overload of formulaic rom-coms made throughout the 2000s.
I have many queerplatonic relationships. It’s not a type of relationship that works only monogamously. You can have multiple queerplatonic relationships. Personally, I believe it has to do with one’s own capacity for love more than anything else. Do you have any queerplatonic relationships in your life?
Do you have any queerplatonic relationships in your life?
No, I don’t think so.